• Melissa

Your Not-So-Perfect Life

Hi. Me again. Welcome back. This week Gracefully Mel is brought to you by a lack of self- confidence; endorsing airbrushed waistlines and unachievable goal setting since 2010.

I don’t know why I set an alarm in the morning; it goes off at seven, I snooze it for the eighteenth time at nine and I refuse to get out of bed until scrolling through Instagram has me feel adequately shit enough to start my day off on the right foot and all that. In the not-so-distant past, I aspired to look, talk and live like one of those Instagram models I was endlessly admiring every morning; the long silky hair, the perfect teeth, the size four body, raking in the money whilst posing awkwardly on the kitchen counter in the new MissGuided. Their lives look perfect and I wanted perfect.

But it wasn’t till recently that I realised I was aspiring to be a badly airbrushed version of myself, promoting a brand that doesn’t believe in size inclusivity. That’s right – at MissGuided a size 20 woman only has 91 dresses to choose from online in comparison to the 2024 dresses available for a size 8. In fact, I was aspiring to be the same person who made me feel like I wasn’t enough by just being me: Oh, you can’t wear that, you clearly need lip fillers and please tell me why you’re not booked in for your vitamins? Intravenous is the new eating; great for watching that waistline. This isn’t even a farfetched example of the things the influencers I was following promoted on their platforms every single day. I am no doctor, but I really don’t think there is anything safe about hooking yourself up to an IV line in the middle of the Arndale.

So, I ask myself, why do we hold these people on our social media platforms in such high regard? Don’t get me wrong, there are some influencers that promote amazing things on their platforms but if you happen to fall into this influencer category where your Instagram feed is populated with photos that do not actually look like you, yet you're telling your followers you need to look like you, please ask yourself - what are you doing? Yes, your waist looks tiny in that bikini snap captioned hard work pays off, so please tell me your secrets!! Hard work at the gym? No… Genetics? No… Oh, Facetune? Oh, I see. I take it that crash course in airbrushing really paid off then. Good for you.

Whilst you’re consuming yourself with likes and shares and followers, there is a whole generation of people that you. are. damaging. Please think twice before telling the world that your life is beyond perfect. Don't leave out the stomach rolls and double chins. Share the good, the bad, and the ugly. If this was a competition of proving yourself, you sure as hell wouldn’t win - we would even recognise you in person.

Me finding my best angle.

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